|Originally Posted 07/20/10
Maybe I have
just been doing this job too long and maybe I have attempted to help way too
many people through the years, but there is little doubt that one of the most
irritating things I hear too often these days, often voiced in that whiny,
little kid voice, is, "I just donít know what to do with my life.Ē This whine
is usually said with eyes down accompanied with a little whimper as if this
admission should make me feel sorry for you.
I do feel
sorry for this person. I feel sorry in about the same way I feel for people who
abuse the unemployment check system, who refuse to work because the job isnít
perfect and move home with their parents and the ones who bitch about going to
college and then not being able to get a job.
What did you think that four-year degree in psychology was going to get you
anyway, $50K a year and a corner office, or is that really the degree you get
to waste four years of college and then whine some more about how unfair the
job market is? Dudette, if you have the skills you will get hired but all that
degree got you was the right to keep going for a lot more years until you get
to the point that you are hirable. You made the decision so shut up and go back
to school or get a job at Wal-Mart.
This "I donít
know about my lifeĒ whine is especially depressing when you hear it from people
in their late 20ís and beyond. "I just donít know what I want to do. It is so
hard to make up my mind.Ē Youíre 30 years old. When are you going to commit to
something that will take your life forward? If not now, then when? If ever?
Here is hint.
Get off your ass and commit to something. Stop whining about your miserable
life, make a decision and move forward. And while youíre at it, stop blaming
your parents, the schools, your spouse, and system, your current job and
anything else you use to prevent you from committing to something besides a
lifetime of mediocrity. Youíre 30 and working a lousy job because you made
decisions yesterday that got you there. No one else made those decisions and if
you did let someone else decide, you now qualify as a double dumbass.
Your life has
to mean something. You have to constantly be engaged in an epic battle to be
the best in the world at what you do. The road is littered with the bodies of a
thousand people who flounder for a few years trying job after job and then
flash fry themselves in a few split seconds when they realize that everything
they have done as made no difference and they are merely filling a terrible job
doing work that any trained chimp could knock down with a few lessons.
Life is hard
and it is extremely difficult to grow beyond the average. If you want to be the
best at what you do then you have to persevere way after others quit. You have
to commit to something you love, believe in and want to make your lifeís work
and stop your whining and whimpering that life is so hard and you canít get
what you want; as if you have ever taken the time to even know what you want?
The world is
built for quitters. We make it easy to quit in our culture. This is why there
are over 200 hundred certifications for trainers. Instead of focusing your
energy on being the best in the world and dedicating your life to one track
with a professional company such as ACE, most trainers just float from
certification to certification gathering more initials on their business card.
initials and sooner or later you become a super trainer is the theory. Good
theory but hopelessly stupid. Yes, education is good if it supports your
targeted goal at being the best at what you do. Education for the sake of
avoiding building a career, and a life of meaning, is a waste of time. Initials
donít make you the best in the world; itís the mastery of what you know beyond
those around you that makes you a hero.
worth doing is hard by design of the universe. There is always a large barrier
that separates the good from the great and this barrier exists because the
world recognizes that the truly dedicated and gifted are the people we all want
to hangout with and if someone is willing to pay the price to be that
superstar, then he must truly be worth knowing. If greatness were easy,
everybody you know, including your unfocused butt, would be rock stars, great
writers, super trainers, or rich business people.
reality, there are a very limited number of the truly great in any of these
fields and that few are defined by a narrow focus centered at chasing the one
thing that makes them want to get up in the morning and go kick some ass. You
have to have a reason to run every morning, to get up and chase the dream of
being the best you can be, but most are simply unwilling to do the work it
takes to kill their category
you do in your career should have a purpose of moving you ahead, but most
people donít know what they want from their lives, and therefore, get nothing
but obscurity and mediocrity for their efforts. Anything is possible if the
focus is there and a plan exists to get you to the top
Your life is
your life to live it anyway you want, but you only achieve success when you
define what you want and then chase it with the heart of a rampaging bull.
Being mediocre at something is easy. Simply do as little as possible to improve
yourself, let time pass, grow old too quickly in mind and spirit and then
wonder why you are wearing an adult diaper and wasted a life unfulfilled.
When was the
last time you set in Starbucks with a little notebook and projected your life
out five years? Have you asked yourself what you want from your life, your
career and the next few years? Or are you doing what you are doing because it
is your lifeís work, which is noble, or because you are on cruise control
wasting your time and everyone elseís that knows you?
driven people are the only ones worth knowing. People who dedicate their life
to being the best in the world at what they do, something almost anyone can
achieve but so few are willing to do the work, are the ones who are the most
interesting and who are the ones who will change the way we live and work.
Life is too short to waste it by sitting on your ass whining. "I donít know
what I want to do with my lifeĒ is a great way to waste your life. If you donít
yet know, then do some deep thinking, commit and seek to be the best there is.
But stop using this tired whine as an excuse to do nothing but waste time and
burn up your life and money. Get up tomorrow with a purpose and that purpose is
to be the best in the world in what you do and be prepared to outwork anyone
who gets in your way.